Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Tip of the Day

Yes, I am still alive! I know I haven't posted in a while, and I have a lot of catching up to do, but I read something this morning that I really liked so I have to share. I subscribe to an email "Tip of the Day" from Screamfree Parenting and that's where I found this. I'm just going to copy and paste...

Quote of the Day: "You are worried about seeing him spend his early years in doing nothing. What! Is it nothing to be happy? Nothing to skip, play, and run around all day long? Never in his life will he be so busy again. "
— Jean Jacques Rousseau, Emile 1762

Hal's Take:
For a child, doing nothing is often much more valuable than doing something. They learn to entertain themselves, to find joy in simplicity, to problem solve, to be content. So, why is it that we spend our energy either pushing our children towards adulthood or holding them back from it?

These are two very dangerous extremes and the worst part is, many of us fluctuate between them! On one hand, we push our kids when we structure their every activity and send them for SAT tutoring before they even get into high school. Then we shake our heads when they seem to lack joy and have trouble maintaining relationships in adulthood. On the other hand, we hold them back when we overprotect them, intervene for them, and problem solve on their behalf. Then we complain when they are immature adults who don’t seem to have initiative or drive. In both cases, we overmanage our kids because of our own anxiety.

One of the best ways to truly prepare your child for a successful adulthood is to neither overprotect nor rush their childhood. Relax and teach them to live in the moment. That is a skill that very few of their peers will possess and you’ll be amazed at how they will flourish because of it.
-Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.


sara said...

what in the world??? a new post?!?! it's about time!!! considering you were the one who told me to start a blog! but seriously...i really needed to hear that. i get those emails as well, but i hadn't seen that. thank you for posting it!!

Jen said...

Hey Em! I love Hal Runkel - I try to listen when he's on 97.1. I am also glad (and shocked) that you finally posted. lol